Post by Desophaeus on Sept 1, 2016 22:22:52 GMT
Franz von Hipper , You said "I have a date on Friday, just curious does anyone have legit advice, also I am bored."
This made me think of what I would say to you guys here on the forum...
Dating advice?
...
It depends on how old you are.
High School and below... Go home, dating ain't legit for teenagers. Trust me, 99% of relationships in HS and/or Middle School is just pure drama and is a huge waste of time crying in angst or writing cheap garage band rock songs about it. It's like watching a 14 year old Justin Bieber whining about a girl who refuses to ride with him on his tricycle.
College and beyond?
Okay now... I have to split it down in pieces.
I suggest you keep your eyes out for good and bad examples but don't participate yourself into the dating business. Just observe people make mistakes. You need to learn what kind of a woman you are looking for before you actually look for one or else you end up with a crappy one, and why waste your time with a girl that you would have move on from? Just skip her and move on. Non-participation is highly recommended until you have at least reached your 3rd year in college. By the time I had spent 3 years in college, I gained much experience in both observing people and also experience in areas that aren't related to dating but helps fill you out as a well-rounded adult. A good female friend of mine (I did ask her out, but she never was my girlfriend) was the one who mentioned the idea of waiting until 3rd year of college before deciding to be an available single. She had the right advice, I agreed with her.
I will tell you my experiences in real life outside the area of dating:
I got a broken nose. I had lived in my own apartment for a year and half, owned a car, worked various jobs, including contract as a house painter and DIY construction worker helping out a DIY house owner. I even experienced a short stay at a homeless shelter for 3 weeks (long story, just don't ask, okay? lol). I rode the city bus (metro area of 2.5 millions btw, that's an important thing) for about a year and half. I even went to the courts to testify against two muggers who tried to rob me. I drove almost 48 hours from Los Angles, California to Columbus, Ohio, taking turns with my parents and one of my siblings as a family trip during a June month. I was both a moderator and the HTML coding team for a small forum for a year.
I'm telling you, it may have nothing to do with dating girls, but it gave me a more well-rounded perspective on life. THAT helps toward looking for the right girl.
After you have reached the 3rd year of college (OR at least the equivalent in independent living out on your own as adult, paying your own bills, find a way to feed yourself)...
I suggest to women: If a guy comes to you for a date, and he doesn't have both a car and a job, he's a deadbeat, tell him to get lost.
I suggest to men: Get a car and a job, BUT make sure that woman is really worth all of that work before you spend a dollar for a date with her.
Btw... A dollar means way more to a man who works hard at a job than a boy who gets an allowance from his parents.
This made me think of what I would say to you guys here on the forum...
Dating advice?
...
It depends on how old you are.
High School and below... Go home, dating ain't legit for teenagers. Trust me, 99% of relationships in HS and/or Middle School is just pure drama and is a huge waste of time crying in angst or writing cheap garage band rock songs about it. It's like watching a 14 year old Justin Bieber whining about a girl who refuses to ride with him on his tricycle.
College and beyond?
Okay now... I have to split it down in pieces.
I suggest you keep your eyes out for good and bad examples but don't participate yourself into the dating business. Just observe people make mistakes. You need to learn what kind of a woman you are looking for before you actually look for one or else you end up with a crappy one, and why waste your time with a girl that you would have move on from? Just skip her and move on. Non-participation is highly recommended until you have at least reached your 3rd year in college. By the time I had spent 3 years in college, I gained much experience in both observing people and also experience in areas that aren't related to dating but helps fill you out as a well-rounded adult. A good female friend of mine (I did ask her out, but she never was my girlfriend) was the one who mentioned the idea of waiting until 3rd year of college before deciding to be an available single. She had the right advice, I agreed with her.
I will tell you my experiences in real life outside the area of dating:
I got a broken nose. I had lived in my own apartment for a year and half, owned a car, worked various jobs, including contract as a house painter and DIY construction worker helping out a DIY house owner. I even experienced a short stay at a homeless shelter for 3 weeks (long story, just don't ask, okay? lol). I rode the city bus (metro area of 2.5 millions btw, that's an important thing) for about a year and half. I even went to the courts to testify against two muggers who tried to rob me. I drove almost 48 hours from Los Angles, California to Columbus, Ohio, taking turns with my parents and one of my siblings as a family trip during a June month. I was both a moderator and the HTML coding team for a small forum for a year.
I'm telling you, it may have nothing to do with dating girls, but it gave me a more well-rounded perspective on life. THAT helps toward looking for the right girl.
After you have reached the 3rd year of college (OR at least the equivalent in independent living out on your own as adult, paying your own bills, find a way to feed yourself)...
I suggest to women: If a guy comes to you for a date, and he doesn't have both a car and a job, he's a deadbeat, tell him to get lost.
I suggest to men: Get a car and a job, BUT make sure that woman is really worth all of that work before you spend a dollar for a date with her.
Btw... A dollar means way more to a man who works hard at a job than a boy who gets an allowance from his parents.
