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Post by Desophaeus on Apr 17, 2017 15:12:57 GMT
I already made a thread about dating advice... (known as the Doktor Love thread to certain members, lol)
So I shan't give it again in full length.
Dating is pointless for teenagers. Just focus on becoming a complete person in your development into adulthood. Increase your strengths, and try your best to work on your weaknesses.
That's all there is to it, really.
Here's why...
To be honest, everything is in flux at that age. Nothing is set in concrete. Your relationships (either dating or friendships) before you graduate means absolutely nothing in the real world. That's why I didn't bother with the whole dating thing when I was in school. Even in college, I dated very rarely because most girls were silly creatures with no real life purpose. Then later, in my second college, I finally met a real woman, started dating her (after a 5 year drought of no girlfriends), got engaged, then married. I don't regret marrying late at the age of 28. Most of my friends at my age already went through a divorce when they rushed into a dating relationship which led to a marriage at some point before 25 years old.
(even sexual orientation is in flux during the teenage years, but let's not go there... This is not what the thread is for)
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2017 15:21:49 GMT
Well this came out of nowhere.
You're right. The age from say 15-20 is when kids are really energetic and are like "I'll do it whatever it takes" and such "adventures" usually end in epic fails.
Instead focus on being something first rather than being that guy who spent the golden part of his life trying to "get girls".
The reason why I've been single till date is the same thing kids. Either do it in one single time (and get your homework done before that, that is. At least have something that shows you're an adult) or don't do it at all.
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Post by Desophaeus on Apr 17, 2017 15:25:35 GMT
Well this came out of nowhere. You're right. The age from say 15-20 is when kids are really energetic and are like "I'll do it whatever it takes" and such "adventures" usually end in epic fails. Instead focus on being something first rather than being that guy who spent the golden part of his life trying to "get girls". The reason why I've been single till date is the same thing kids. Either do it in one single time (and get your homework done before that, that is. At least have something that shows you're an adult) or don't do it at all. Not really that nowhere... There was some chatter about losing a girlfriend here and there for the last few days. I figured... I can take 2 minutes and set it aside to write a simple point about not needing to worry about dating at that young age. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2017 15:32:12 GMT
Well this came out of nowhere. You're right. The age from say 15-20 is when kids are really energetic and are like "I'll do it whatever it takes" and such "adventures" usually end in epic fails. Instead focus on being something first rather than being that guy who spent the golden part of his life trying to "get girls". The reason why I've been single till date is the same thing kids. Either do it in one single time (and get your homework done before that, that is. At least have something that shows you're an adult) or don't do it at all. Not really that nowhere... There was some chatter about losing a girlfriend here and there for the last few days. I figured... I can take 2 minutes and set it aside to write a simple point about not needing to worry about dating at that young age. oh yeah. It was Antonio Santa Anna and his "headache". |
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Post by Antonio Santa Anna on Apr 17, 2017 15:34:57 GMT
Not really that nowhere... There was some chatter about losing a girlfriend here and there for the last few days. I figured... I can take 2 minutes and set it aside to write a simple point about not needing to worry about dating at that young age. oh yeah. It was Antonio Santa Anna and his "headache". Yep... That girl was about 20 headaches on wheels, believe me. (A lot of other names apply to her, but I won't say those in polite company.) |
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Post by Bismarck Jr on Apr 17, 2017 16:26:23 GMT
I feel like dating can be good as it allows for social growth and practice for when you're in the real world and require understanding and compassion from another lifelong partner.
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Post by Desophaeus on Apr 17, 2017 19:34:02 GMT
I feel like dating can be good as it allows for social growth and practice for when you're in the real world and require understanding and compassion from another lifelong partner. That can be a healthy perspective on dating. During my five-year "drought", while I didn't have any girlfriends at all, I did went out on a date with girls under the clear understanding that this date was not intended to lead to a relationship or anything beyond enjoying an evening together as friends. Plus, those dates were more of a group of multiple couples like 8 people going out to a local bowling alley after a nice dinner at a good mid-tier restaurant during a holiday season, for example. I came to know more about myself and what I was looking in my perspective and what girls are viewing life in general as their perspectives. Of course, sensitive questions weren't asked because that's impolite and it could sour the evening easily. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 21, 2017 17:52:40 GMT
Firstly, on reading the title I thought that you are a love guru kind of guy. But on reading all the posts I agree with you. Even my friends are worried about dating(I am a highschool student).
Honestly I even avoid talking to girls as I feel somewhat nervous. Though I don't know why. But honestly I never thought too much about it.
You married at 28? Not late. Many of my cousins merry at this age and its normal dude.
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Post by Singlemalt on Apr 22, 2017 4:52:41 GMT
Only advice this luv doc could give is never mention ur part of this forum or play et games... they will run away if you would do it I promise  |
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